Thursday, May 21, 2009

Is this for real?

Although I am not a parent yet, I can imagine that parenting is pretty hard. As adoptive parents, we will share in most all of the joys and heartaches that non-adoptive parents encounter----the celebrations of birthdays and milestones, the sadness over loved pets who have gone on to "a better place" and the process of individuation that seems to happen much to quickly. While the role of a loving parent is the same no matter how your child joined your family, as adoptive parents we do deal with some extra issues. I think lots about the challenges and joys of attempting to instill a sense of pride in Y about the country from which she has come. I also think about how hard we as adoptive parents must think about things that might come easily for others....things like attaching to your child and helping them to feel safe and secure, helping your child adjust to boundaries and limits when they have never had them, showing physical affection to a child who has had only negative experiences with touch, helping Y/your child transition from a house full of other children (sometimes hundreds) to a small city apartment with only two other people.....these are big issues, people!!!!

My point? Parenting is full of joy, but also full of tough stuff. Parenting a child who has joined your family through adoption adds several extra layers of tough stuff that will stump us as parents. And because parenting is so tough (just projecting here...) and because adoption does bring up many important questions for the adoptee, the last thing we as adoptive parents need is something like this to make our children feel ostracized......http://orphan-movie.warnerbros.com/

I again ask the question, "is this for real?" And if so, what should we as adoptive parents do about it?????

4 comments:

Jen said...

No way!!!! that movie is horrible!

Thank you for your kind words. We are sad, but hopeful that they can figure it all out.

Journey to Jaden said...

Thanks for your offer to check photos to see if you have any of my son! I tried emailing off of the address you typed in my blog but it won't go through so I used the email address off of this blog..I hope that's okay..and thank you again!!

Jonathan, Stacy, & Peter Peterson said...

Isn't it awful. Thanks for speaking out about this, it is a great post.

Tam said...

oh my god! that's terrible!